my name is Alonna, I am 21 years old and live in upstate South Carolina with my husband Toby and son Bowen. I am a full time stay at home mama and I love figuring out how to make our family life fun while still staying as "simple" as possible. When I say simple I mean taking a step back, being in nature, going for a walk, and being authentically yourself! It can be so easy as millennials who have grown up with technology and publicity that we become engrossed it in without even knowing. I hope to show my love for thrifting for home décor, clothing and anything else I can find. Another tool that is a big part of my daily life is to try to make the "daily duties" a bit more fun like cleaning, cooking, organizing exc. I hope this blog is somewhere I can store memories and make new ones!
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The springtime here in South Carolina is more like summer. It is not uncommon to hit the 80’s in May and be well in the 90’s until September. So I usually go for flowy outfits. That means shorts and jeans just won’t do it for me. A dress, a jumpsuit, or a ROMPER is the way to go in my opinion. My summer wardrobe mostly consist of these items! Not only are these pieces comfortable but so extremely easy to style! You can wear them casually or dress them up with some fun jewelry and heels! Either way having a few staple rompers in your arsenal will make picking out a cute outfit effortless! Thank you for reading! 🕊
I think living life the way that you want to is something that a very small percentage of people actually get to do. Not caring if what excites you and makes you happy, might concern or even upset someone else. This. This is the key, THEY have an issue NOT YOU. Easier said than done but really if you want to wear a sundress and everyone else is wearing jeans and a top what are the chances you go with your intuition, your first pick, and didn’t care about what anyone else was wearing. Somehow someway we got programmed into thinking we need to all try and be similar. Similar life, similar timelines. Go to public school, travel some, marriage, buy a house, start a family. But what if you’re not like the rest of them…
I am sharing this just in case anyone feels like they have to fit into a mold that they did not have a say in. You are the creator of your own destiny and life. You can literally do ANYTHING. Will you be good at everything. No. But you may just come across something that sparks a Little Flame and fucking run with it and does not let anyone touch it! Seriously I feel like my life took a 180 when I stopped trying to be what other people perceived and started doing what I love. Anything in Nature, homemaking, staying home with my son, blogging, fashion, and the list goes on and on. I do not feel as one is more important than the other I just feel full and grateful that they all work together to create my unique life. If we intentionally spend our time and money only on what we truly want. That is when we win. Thankyou so much for reading! Just be yourself! 🕊
I have been wanting to incorporate more fashion posts on my blog and spring\summer seem like the perfect time! Especially here in South Carolina, we have already had a few almost 80°f days! I am not complaining though I love the heat and the sun, and this dress is perfect for just that! I am a tad biased because I LOVE a good dress during the warmer months. People say “oh wow, you’re dressed up” No, no I just threw on one single garment but thank you! Haha! Really though this dress is so cute and feminine it hits about 3″ inches above the knee and the backless feature is just my favorite! I go braless because well I go braless 95% of the time but you could wear a backless bra if you wish! So whether you are playing with the family all day or running around town shopping this dress IS IT! Thanks for reading. 🕊
This is much easier said than done, but also the most beneficial tip. If we walk around taking others dreams, ideas, fears, or insecurity is it really living for yourself? Life is so so short and we do not want to waste our time! You always hear elders talk about what they ‘wished’ they would have done. What if as a society we stopped all the self-doubting and just chased our own unique dreams? That’s when things finally felt like I was in control of the joy I felt in my life. When I stopped listening to outsiders who (even with best interest at heart) do not know my heart and my desires.
2. Go with your gut
This is a goodie. Whatever we decide to do in this life I pray it lights a fire and brings peace and joy. Oh, that feeling you get when you’re succeeding at something you love! Isn’t that the best? I think tip numbers 1 and 2 tie into one another. What I mean by this is if something excites you or interest you and you have the ability to do it. Do it. Life is all about what you make it. There are so many opportunities headed our way if we would just have faith and go for it then who knows maybe we can achieve it!
3. Be present and be patient
This is kinda a 2 for 1 lol. Staying present and being patient is extremely difficult for me. I have always been a goal setter. Looking for the next best thing! So staying content and just taking in the present is sometimes challenging. Laying down the electronics and going outdoors seem to be how I achieve this every day. Patience, on the other hand, has never come easy. I have prayed and prayed and I think the Lors himself is just waiting on me to get it through my thick head! But seriously meditating, being in nature and just slowing down seems to always uplift my day. I hope this brings someone a little happiness. 🕊 #joyfilled #positiveenergy #manifestation #blogmom
I’ve attached a few photos through the years of my hair journey. From relaxers from 2006-2014 about every eight weeks! If you are thinking of going natural or transitioning to natural hair, do it!! It is so much better for you and your hair! It’s about the same price too just more time, and your hair will look better I guarantee it! I big chopped December 23, 2015! Unplanned the day before Christmas eve lol! I loved it! You are beautiful naturally! We do not need to change how we are to fit into society. I personally want to be the damn right opposite of our Millennial beauty standards! I’m so over big tots, big ass, big lips, and flat hair like okay it’s been done, honey. I had people make fun of me in school for my little short afro but 100% of those people are irrelevant now. Funny how that works. Something seems so monumental at the moment and two months later you can’t even remember so and so’s the name! Best not to waste your energy getting upset. So please if you’re thinking about it I urge you to watch YouTube videos on natural hair journeys! I probably watched over 50, they are super helpful! This is how the hair grows naturally out of our head! Why change it?
Tips for transitioning to natural hair
1. These tools I use daily. A Wide tooth comb, denim brush, boar bristle brush, satin pillowcase.
2. Find youtubers or bloggers with similar hair texture for inspiration.
3. Do not hang on to those ends sweetie they’re already dead. I recommend seeing a professional hair stylist!
4. Do not care what others think. They ALWAYS have an opinion. And it has NOTHING to do with you.
5. Leave in, oil, cream. This is for every time you wash and style. I always do these three steps. (Just find the best ones for you and stick to those you don’t need 700577839 products.
6. Deep condition as much as possible.
7. Find your favorite protective styles that are easy and nonmanipulative.
8. FALL IN LOVE WITH YOUR HAIR!! If you don’t how do you expect others to? Peace and blessings also patience is key! 🌿🕊 #naturalhair #curlyhair #naturalhairjourney #blogmom
Parenting. It’s exhausting and hard, but also rewarding and magical. Without getting into the nitty-gritty my husband and I both wanted our family dynamic to be very different than that which we were brought up. Not completely but for the most part, our parenting styles were not the same as our parents. So we both had to start from scratch. I worked as a babysitter/nanny and then at a daycare before having my son so I had some idea of the style of parenting I preferred. My husband is a very go with the flow personality and I feel like his parenting styles shifted as he gained knowledge of different parenting styles.
Everyone is going to parent differently because every child and every circumstance is different. We prefer and believe in respectful parenting, mixed with some child lead and gentle parenting tactics. Obviously, we do not crack open a book every time our 21-month-old throws a tantrum but we try and abide by the guidelines these parenting books layout. There are so many resources today. The internet being the biggest and broadest, but something about touching, smelling, and reading an actual book that is so satisfying. It’s like this is in a book! There was a lot of money and time invested in this. So in my opinion this book is more reliable than maybe some internet article (ironic). I always do research on both ends of course. That is the only way to collect real research,but I would recommend checking out your local library and browsing the parenting sections. You may be surprised what goodies you find! 🕊 #blogmom #respectfulparenting #marriagegoals #family #outdoor
I am currently not finished with these books yet. I will finish them though! I use the table of contents a lot and read all around in each book to applicable chapters or pages. Another great resource is podcasts! I use the double pod app. Just type your parenting styles in the search engine and you can browse and listen to them for free!
Newbies guide to positive parenting by Rebecca Eanes
Toby and I met in drama class at our high school. It was my freshman year and his junior year. On the first day, I was accidentally put into the Drama2 class and later in the week switched to Drama1 with my future husband. On the first day, I walked in the double doors and I remember having to walk along the auditorium in front of the whole class. I saw Toby and his friend next to him and immediately thought oh he’s cute and kept walking to my teacher. Now it’s funny to think about but we had never talked to each other not seen each other. The weeks went on and we flirted a little in class. Then it came time for our winter break.
We had exchanged phone numbers earlier on as friends and I remember the whole last week before the break there was just tension. Good tension like I want to be with this guy and I’m sure he had his own thoughts. But he walked me out after class and another classmate walked with us the whole time lol. I could tell Toby wanted to talk to me alone. After I got picked up because I did not even have a driver’s license yet. We texted all day long. When I got home he asked if I had plans over the break, and if not he wanted to hang out! I flipped out and called my best friend, true 15-year-old girl freak out. We ended up at our local Applebees and a movie and let’s just say the first date was “memorable” but such a blast! If you know me you know I have a loud and bubbly personality and Toby is the complete opposite, calm and cools almost all the time. So it makes sense after our movie I look over and I kissed him! 15?! Calm down girl! A girl knows what she wants.
Anyways Toby had quickly become one of my good friends at school and dating him was even better! He was constantly holding doors, calling me babydoll, and spending a lot of his time and money on me! So I knew he felt like what we have is important and worth the time and effort. He was pursuing me in all the right ways. He still does. But in the beginning, everything is so new and sweet. I remember one day in my room we were “talking” and 15 years old me said, “I’m going to marry you, you know that?” He sweetly smiled and looked at me with those dang gorgeous brown eyes! And said “okay!” just as solemn and sure as he always is. Gosh, I love him. We talked about marriage from the third month or so of dating, I’m sure all of my friends thought we moved quickly but I felt like we just seemed right. Not only lustful teenage angst but passionate love and a stronger friendship than we knew we had.
Like I said Toby is two years older so he finished school in 2013 and I graduated In 2015. On the day of my graduation, we were taking photos and my friends and family are there and so are his! Right there at our high school football stadium, he proposed! He literally waited 15 minutes after I graduated! Haha, I love this man ya’ll! So I planned our wedding in 5 months and we got married on October 11, 2015, with all the love we could wish for.
We were married about 10 months before I found out I was pregnant with our son. He was born on February 10th, 2017. Our love story continues and I can not wait to see what is written! 🕊