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I worked at a daycare for 2 years in and out of the toddler classrooms. I have a two-year-old son who has also taught me a lot about toddlers and their many emotions (usually justified). When children hit around age 2 they begin to test their limits and boundaries of life. They are growing, learning and developing. Also, communication is limited but receptive language is soaring. Toddlers are starting to understand very well but can not express themselves or most ideas verbally yet. Frustrating. Then Naturally, they are going to make mistakes (part of learning anything new) and how we react to them is a direct correlation with how they will react. For example, if our child makes a mess with a toy or food we could react by shouting and scowling. Or we could ask them why they did it and explain why they should not have made that choice. This takes more time and energy but in the long run, teaches a lesson and gives the child an understanding. Instead of scaring and degrading them. You have to think about children as yourself how would you want to be treated at that age? Or now? Would you yell at your spouse or friend for making a mess?
Egnologing their feelings
If you were crying and someone who was trying to comfort you says “oh you’re fine”. You’re probably not going to confide in them again. Same with our children the only difference is we feel as adults that they should have “control” and suppress feelings at a young age. If my two-year-old is upset because he wants something in a store that he can not have, because we don’t give him whatever he wants, he is not being a brat he is upset that he can not get his way. Our JOB is to teach how to cope with these feelings. I usually say I see you really wanted that thing, I know it is frustrating not to get what you want. But and then go on to explain you have plenty of you to play with or whatever.
Finding a solution
Okay, this is just as important a the first two steps to you will just be repeating the same thing over and over. So after you have understood what your child is upset about, now you can move on to finding a solution. This might look like “I know you want this but we can not get that and I know that makes you upset but we can eat these snacks I brought until we’re done at the store. Almost a distraction but you are still doing the 3 keynotes. This technique has worked for me and I hope it works for anyone else! 🕊
*Disclaimer: I am not an expert childcare specialist. If you need advice on what to do, talk to your medical provider. This is simply my opinion and experience.