How I found a local midwife
I think the best way to find a good recommendation is always word of mouth and personal experiences. So that’s exactly what I did I had a group of like minded mothers around me who had either birthed at a birthing center, in a hospital but with a midwife and doula or at home. 100% of the 4 moms I talked to recommended the same midwifery so I went in for a consultation and knew she would be a great fit! I would ask other seasoned moms if you are curious about reputable midwives in your area!
Choosing a birth plan
I am hesitate to even use the words ‘birth plan’ because in the homebirth community especially I feel like giving up any expectations on how you think you will birth and just letting whatever happens happen is the way to have the most peaceful birth experience. What I mean is of course plan and prepare but if maybe things progress or delay more than expected instead of panicking and changing the whole plan have a little patience for baby and your body. I was expecting to birth in a birthing pool at home they had delivered all the supplies and I had the water birth kit all that was to be done was setting up the pool and filling it up.
Well things went from 0 to 100 so fast that by the time my husband got home I had to have him run a hot bath and help me in the water. The midwives got there 2 minutes later and my water broke. There was absolutely no way we had time to move. So there I was having labored the whole time at home with my three year old son and having the baby in our bathtub. Haha but I just surrendered and said okay this is where I’m having the baby so get zen. I imagined being in a lacey bralette with candles lit and soft music playing while I laid against my husband through contractions. Instead I was butt naked in front of God and everyone in my tub in broad daylight! But it was still just as magical as I imagined it would be. All that to say just let your body and baby do what they want during labor and follow your intuition.
What appointments are like in a midwifery office
So they are alot less invasive than a traditional OBGYN office. Most appointments are urine sample, weight, belly measurement, and listen to the heartbeat. Of course your midwife should ask how you are doing and help with any recommendations you need to pregnancy ailments. And that’s pretty much it maybe a few conversations about the birth. As far as testing goes you have the option to deny any test just like a regular physicians office. But all the same tests that your OBGYN offers your midwife should be able to do or refer you to someone who will. I think I had one ultrasound by choice again you have to have at least one ultrasound by law but I personally did not want anymore than medically necessary. I never had anxiety going into my appointment or coming out. After every appointment I felt happy and excited for the next visit and upcoming birth!
My contractions started on Monday evening at 7:30pm they lasted all night and by 2am I had to wake up and take a shower and get on my birthing ball. I made myself some oatmeal and by 6am I called my midwife and she headed to the house. When she arrived I was excited and ready to be checked for dilation. Up to this point I had not been. She checked me vaginally and I was only 2cm dilated and you have to make it to 10cm before you can push and have your baby. So I was pretty disappointed and a little embarrassed. My husband had stayed home thinking “this is it”. My midwives told me to keep tracking contractions and to keep them updated. I told my husband to go to work and he said he would just work a half day until 12pm. It was now around 7am.
So now I was home having contractions with my 3.5 year old son. I made a quick breakfast and ran some bath water. Then put on a show for him. I labored in the living room mostly but I took 2-3 hot baths and one shower. Water always helps me deal with contractions. So around 10am I’m kind of realizing the contractions are not slowing down. I text my midwife and tell her these feel stronger and more intense. I called my husband at 11am and told him I NEEDED him home.
At this point I can’t talk through contractions and I have to really focus to breath and not scream in pain. We needed lunch and a few things at the store so Toby asked if I thought he had time to do that before coming home and I said yes. Lol oh alonna. At this point my mkdwofe sent over the doula to come sit with me so I wasn’t alone. My midwife was actually at another birth! So now its like 12:50 and my husband pulls in with our cheeseburgers in tow! He gives me my food and I try and scarf it down between contractions. Mind you I am half naked on our couch on my side because I could not sit on my botton! So toby is getting our sons food set up and I ask if he can please draw me another bath.
I get in and tell him he needs to call the midwife now! He calls and as he finishes his sentence she says I’m in your driveway! Praise be! When he told me she was here my whole body relaxed. She came in and the doula pulled in right behind her, its around 1:15pm They dropped there bags put on gloves and starting helping me. I was having contractions on top of each other and had the urge to push. It hurt extremely bad at this point I was totally taken over by the pain now.
I start pushing and my midwife gets in the tub with me!! Lol she is encouraging me to open my legs just a little more as I notice my knees are touching! Haha I was like “no”. But eventually I get in a more optimal position. I push 1 time and my water breaks push 2 and I can feel her head then my doula finds Toby who thought we had a couple hours left and is like she’s pushing get in here! I think I pushed 2 more times and she was out. 5lbs 8oz wasn’t too hard to deliver. She was TINY. And a girl!! We waited to find out the gender and it was amazing.
I passed the placenta and had no tearing, no stitches, and no extreme hemorrhaging. This birth was super quick and not as intense as with my first. She nursed almost immediately and is so so sweet. I will say the after birth contractions almost had me in tears from the pain. We never had time to get the birthing pool out and filled I had her in our regular bathtub. That was not the plan but still cool. If you are thinking of trying a homebirth. I recommend it. Research it, look up youtube videos, and documentaries, statistics, and highly recommended midwives in your area. This was my dream birth and something I will cherish forever.
Details: I know some people are curious on all the details of having a midwife and natural home birth. Below are some extra things I have not mentioned.
1. No I didn’t have any medication, oxygen, IVs, or monitors.
2. For afterbirth pains I took ibuprofen. This lasted about 5 days.
3. I had no tearing or ripping so I didn’t need stitches.
4. I saved my placenta this time to use for placenta smoothies. (Yes to eat). Look up the benefits of eating your placenta.
5. I breastfed immediately after birth, this helps with contracting your uterus down and feeding/bonding with baby.
6. My midwives stayed about 3 hours after to make sure we were set up and comfortable. Then back the next day, then 1 week PP, 2 weeks PP, and 4 and 6 weeks PP.
7. If I had to do it again I would do it the same! And as far as financial it was the same price as a hospital or birth center birth would have been. And in my opinion better more specialized care.
Why I love our Britax grow with you harness to booster
If you’re a parent you know the struggle having a car seat that is difficult to install. Before this, we had a Graco and before that, we had a Chicco. Those two did the job fine but as far as installation they were both a lot compared to the Britax. I heard a friend talking about the Britax car seat and then I saw it in person and knew that was going to be our next car seat. The one we ended up going with was in the color sea glass and I think it’s so fun that it’s blue! When I put Bowen in I can tell he is comfortable and SAFE. and I don’t have to break a sweat getting it set up. My husband even said it was really simple and quick to install.
What makes it so good?
1. Quick installation
2. Simple instructions
3. The grow with you harness to booster is a Great size car seat for a toddler with long legs.
4. Britax is Sold at Walmart stores so it is easy to just go pick one up or you can order!
5. Soft and Easy to clean material
This is my experience and review saying we love our Britax Grow with you harness 2 booster in seaglass car seat and I can not see us using any other brand in the future!
What do I use CBD for?
I am a lover of plant medicine and homeopathic medicine, we don’t use over the counter medications. I am always looking for new healthy ways to heal. When I saw friends and family using CBD regularly from local stores and heard amazing success stories it didn’t take long to start doing my own research and come to the conclusion that cannabis is the mother of all healers! CBD stands for cannabidiol and is the second most prevalent active ingredient of cannabis. While CBD is an essential component in medical marijuana, it is derived directly from the hemp plant, which is a cousin of the marijuana plant. CBD can not cause a “high” by itself. I use CBD nearly daily for inflammation mostly but also anxiety, brain fog, acne, headaches, and to support my immune system.
Modern medicine has a time and a place to be used. A sore muscle or a headache or any ache or pain, in my opinion, should not be covered up but healed. Are we drinking enough clean water, eating whole foods, getting our daily vitamins in? If these are all being done properly that’s when I bring in CBD or another plant medicine. I can give it to my children and husband without being worried of the possible side effects because there are none. None long term that could damage kidneys or other major organs. I can feel confident we are treated our ailments while using the purest CBD oils on the market!
How I chose the best CBD
I had tried CBD from friends before but it was always clear and had no plant taste, It was either flavored or plain! I had been following a mom on Instagram who had some of the same takes on motherhood as I did and she was also a businesswoman. She had been working with a CBD oil company and left. Soon after she announced she would be launching her own brand or organically grown, women-owned, made in the USA, CBD oil. I knew I wanted to try it out for myself for my acne and anxiety. So as soon as I could that’s what I did! Shortly after reaping the benefits of this miracle oil I decided to start sharing about it and got some family on board with trying it to help with there health issues. Nūvita CBD is a staple in my medicine cabinet and I don’t see us ever not having it. It tastes just like pure cannabis oil, smells great, lasts long, and has no additive ingredients. I hope this answered some questions about CBD and pregnancy and as always consult your healthcare provider while taking supplements while pregnant. Thank you for reading! The link to purchase your nūvita CBD is below just click the link in my bio!
Hey there! Thanks for stopping by, today I will be talking about my favorite safe cleaning products. Finding an all in one cleaner was something that was important to me because I try to be more on the minimal side when it comes to the number of products we keep our the home. It was also important to find a cleaner that was not toxic to breathe in for me or my growing family. That’s when I came across Branch Basics!
How it works
Branch basics is a woman-owned business and they sell non-toxic cleaner! How it works is you order your kit and it comes with the soap concentrate and labeled bottles. You fill with water then fill to the soap line and that’s it, you’re ready to clean! The oxygen boost is amazing as well I use it for a spot treatment and you can add it to loads to brighten them up. Online Branch basics has different options to choose your kit, they even have a trial kit for $5!
How long it lasts
I received my starter kit around January and it is May and I need to just now reorder the concentrate. I use it as hand soap, dish soap, all purpose spray, no streak spray, laundry detergent, and spot treatment, you can also use it on your whole bathroom! It works quick and I don’t need 10 products. It lasted our family about 4 months and It’s the only cleaner I used.
How much is the cost
The starter kit is $69.00 this includes the concentrate all the bottles you will need and the oxygen boost which I have and love for fighting stains! And to repurchase the 33 oz. concentrate is $49.00. I definitely think they are worth the investment if you divide that by weeks it lasted us 16 weeks then we spent about $3.15 a week on a good nontoxic cleaning soap. Winning!
I will be repurchasing this product and I think they are economical and sustainable. The product performs well and lasts a long time. And I forgot to mention they just released NEW GLASS BOTTLES! Branch Basics is the kind of brand I love to support and feel so lucky I found my forever cleaner!
We are pregnant! This is our second baby. We already have a three year old little boy and Toby and I are so excited for him to have a sibling! I am currently only about eight
weeks, and have morning sickness which is different from my last! My husband and I knew we wanted more that one child so we were all excited and a little surprised. Haha
The theme of the blog will shift slightly more strongly targeted toward those who want to read about the topics I will list. At least from now until about August 2020! Of course still, some family and lifestyle posts as well but mostly pregnancy & baby, midwifery care at home delivery & postpartum. I hope you will enjoy sharing my feelings and experiences as well as some facts on these topics! Also with this new little one, we will be starting our cloth diapering journey and baby-led weaning. So if these topics interest you then please stick around!
Hey there! If there is one thing I’ve learned from being a mama is that my son THRIVES off of a routine and schedule. He has since about 3 months probably. Nothing too structured but pretty much the same flow every morning and evening makes for a smooth day! Below I am sharing our everyday routine, I hope this helps some mamas get a little routine down! *This is also to be taken with a grain of salt, every day does not go like this.
7:30 mama wakes
7:40 pick up/ write down intentions for the day
7:45 water& snack
8:00 Bowen awake/change diaper/milk
8:15 bowen independent play/mama sits (if it’s a struggle 30 min show)
9:30 cook breakfast\simple center
10:00 eat & clean up
10:30 get ready
11:00 outside time & 1X laundry
12:00 lunchtime/clean up
12:45 outside play/playdate/run errands
1:30 snack/quiet time/ coloring & 1X chore
2:30 outside time before dinner
3:30 house pick up/ prep dinner/ Bowen independent play
4:30 start cooking/ bowen show
5:30 dinner time
6:00 dishes/pick up/play w/ Bowen
8:00 cuddles/milk & show
(In my head I wanted to have zero screen time during the week but that just doesn’t work for us, however, I do limit time. No more than a child’s age of hours per day. So Bowen who is 3 gets no more than 3 hours of screentime a day sometimes we don’t have any or very little but as long as we are outside and playing the majority of the day, I can handle some television.)
* outfits are shopARQ.
You can shop at there website: https://shoparq.com
Fawn designs mini in brown
When my husband and I found out we were pregnant I didn’t even think about what kind of bag we would use. Instead of researching I just picked out the one we agreed on style wise which was a canvas grey backpack from Amazon. This lasted 2 years before the plastic adjustment broke on one side. Then I was in the market for a replacement. I had seen leather diaper bags advertised but didn’t know if that was the route i wanted. After seeing a fawn bag in person and touching the quality i knew that was going to be our next diaper bag investment. I was going to get the original size but to my knowledge if you only have one child the mini is plenty roomy enough. And for someone like me who likes things fairly minimal. The mini brown diaper bag was a no brainer. I have used this bag for about a month now and can say that the quality of the vegan leather and zippers is better than any of my other bags. The stitching is extremely thick so you can really store anything you need. I love my diaper bag and only wish I would have had it sooner! Thank you for reading. Retail Price is 94.99
Hey there! In the summer in the South the last thing you want to do is think about the clothes you have to out on. Honestly just my birthday suit is perfect for me! When I do need to be presentable, I have been grabbing these 2 piece sets from Entourage clothing and Gifts! This summer I bet these little sets along with some dresses will be my go to! It just takes no effort on our part to get dressed for the day with sets and always looks put together! If you are trying to find the best 2 piece set this year check out @Entourage there selection is massive and everything is 42$ and under! Go get em girl! Thank you for reading! 🕊